Boyfriend slept with friend
I went home last weekend and while I was away my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend. They both put it down to being drunk and I have tried to accept this but am finding it very difficult. I love them both and can not understand why they did this to me. I want to put this behind us but when we're all together I can't stop thinking about what they have done.
Kay says:
Do not accept the drunkenness as an excuse for what they have done. I think you should talk to the both of them separately and explain how you feel. The fact that your boyfriend has been unfaithful suggests that he may have some sort of problem with your relationship. You will need to talk this through with him. As for your best friend...I suggest you let your true feelings be know.

No condom, NO IDEA
I was out at the union last night for a few drinks and I ended up going clubbing. I got really drunk and ended up bringing a fella back to mine. We ended up having sex and I don't think we used a condom. When I woke up he was gone. I'm worried and embarrassed about what I have done.
Kay says:
First of all, I do not think it is a good idea to bring strangers back to your place. As you don't know whether you have used contraception I think you should go to the doctors and ask for the "morning after" pill (if it has been less than 72 hours since the unprotected sex). You must not think that this is a form of contraception and suggest talking to your doctor about going on the contraceptive pill. Of course you must use condoms as well as they protect you from any sexually transmitted diseases. I also think you should get checked for possible STD's.

Is he gay?
My boyfriend has recently suggested having a threesome with me and one of his male friends. He appears very keen and sometimes I think he is a little too keen. Do you think my boyfriend is gay? This is really worrying me.
Kay says:
Personally, I do not think your boyfriend is gay. One reason why he may appear keen is because he wants to explore sexually. He may be looking for different ways to make your sex life together more enjoyable. If you feel that your relationship with your boyfriend is strong enough and the three of you are going to be comfortable with this situation then why not? If your relationship is not so serious, then I would not go through with it. You have to be prepared for the consequences that may be a result of this. You could be treading on thin ice!

Small dilemma
Recently my girlfriend, while drunk, told me that I have the smallest willy she has seen. She is comparing me to the guys she has been with before. When she saw how uncomfortable I was she would not elaborate on what she actually meant. I feel inadequate and am paranoid that I am not satisfying her. I love her dearly and want to be able to please her.
Kay says:
Willies come in all different shapes, styles and sizes. This is what makes them so unique. You need to talk to your girlfriend and ask her if you are not satisfying her and then deal with the issue. There are other methods in which to do so. You could use a vibrator, your fingers, your tongue which will get no complaints from your girlfriend! Small willies also have the advantage of rubbing the vulva without hurting. Do not be embarrassed but be confident as this will show your girlfriend that you are not ashamed. You've got what you've got and you should make the most of it.